देखा है मैने करीब से..

देखा है मैने करीब से | इस जहाँ को गेहराई से | एक इन्सान को बदलते हुए | देखा है मैने करीब से..

आँखे से टपकते खून को | अकेलेपन के स्मशान को | एक सच्चे प्यार को हारते हुए | देखा है मैने करीब से..

रीश्तोंको मरते हुए | वादोंके तुटते हुए | बिछड़ते उस बविष्य को | देखा है मैने करीब से..

अपना पराया हो जाना | प्यार नफरत मैं बदलना | अच्छे कर्मोंका बुरा अंजाम | देखा है मैने करीब से..

जिसने जन्नत दिखलाया | मुझसे गेहरा प्यार किया | उसीने दिये मौत को | देखा है मैने करीब से..

जिसके लिये दुनिया छोडी | जिसे हर वोह बात केह दी | उसीके हर झूठे ग्वाँहींको | देखा है मैने करीब से..

जिसे मैने भगवान माना | माँ, बेटी और बेहेन जाना | उसीके पैर की ठोकरोंको | देखा है मैने करीब से..

उसके चाहत भरे मौसम को | उसके हर एक जीस्म को | एक बेवफा के प्यार को | देखा है मैने करीब से..

दुनिया के सामने वोह अच्छी है | पर अंदर से तोह कुछ और ही है..
कोई ना जान सका उस "और" को...  हाँ.. जाना है मैने करीब से..

                                                   - Sumiet23

                        (This Article was written in the remembrance of Manu)

तेरा ही रहूँगा...

जो भी कुच्छ करुँगा.. अच्छा ही करुँगा..
जिसने मुझे रुलाया.. उसका भी भला चाहुँगा..
अपने गलतीयोंका एहसास.. मैं हर रोज करुँगा..
कल किया था बुरा.. वोह मैं आज पाऊँगा..

तुने समझाया था कभी.. हा मैं अभी समझूँगा..
आँख मैं आँसू छूपाकर.. सबको मैं हसाउँगा..
खुद के खुशी के लिये.. अब ना किसी को सताउँगा..
जहा से आया था मैं.. फिर वही लौट जाऊँगा..

अपनोंने मुझे ठूकराया.. अब किसी का क्या कहलाऊँगा..?
अकेली ईन राहों मैं.. तुझे मैं धूँढ़ता फिरुँगा..
जिंदगी मैं बडा ना बन पाया.. पर अच्छा ईन्सान तोह बनूँगा..

ऐ मेरे खुदा.. जरा अपनाले यह सुमीत को..
के जब तक रहूँगा.. "तेरा ही रहूँगा.........."

Sumiet23

The Story of Nine Months.. ( 1 )

"The Story of Nine Months" which consists of Awareness, Affection,

Care, Love, Fear, Doubts, Obsession, Stubbornness, Shared Esteem,
Fights, Mistakes, Joy, Understanding, Tears, Sorrow, Emotional
Outbursts, Smiles, Laughs, etc.. etc.. kind of numerous Feelings.. is
a Cycle of Time, by which each and every Human, may be male/female..
undergoes in certain span of Life.

Since the Birth of a Consciousness.. making One soul to Two..
developing day by day with a sweet adorable existence of the Second..
a Heart shares its own pulses within this Guest as if it is nothing
than the Heart itself...!

Steadily.. while gaining its own structure in the world of Love and
Fantasy.. it steps near the boundary of 270 days.. where two Souls
which are bounded in each other are disparately separated with such a
pain and sufferings outside the shield of endurance.. Known here as
"Human Birth".. resulting to the transversion of a shared Heart into
an esteem which can not be ever shared.. and which has absolutely no
way out except the only means of "Understanding...!!"

You are misunderstanding me..
Dekho, tum galat samajh rahe ho - she repeated..

No.. I understood very clearly..
Sorry.. I'm very sorry for troubling you since many months..
Really sorry.. please forgive me if possible.. - I replied.

Aise kya baat kar rahe ho..?
Bas thode dino ki hi toh baat hai..
Iske ilawa aur koi way out nahi hai..
I'm saying na.. we'll talk everyday through messages..
Now please let me refill sms pack in your phone..
See, I'm just next to the recharge center.. see na.. - she consoled..

Nahi.. - I reported.. - Koi jarurat nahi hai..
Itni bhi kya important baat karte hai hum log..?
Faltu main Faltugiri ki baate karne se achha you don't talk to me by any manner.
We won't contact each other untill unless having any specific important excuse.
Don't worry.. when your today's sent courier will reach to me na..
I'll text you.. and you too text me occasionally like when you would
get your C.S. and M. COM. results.

Please re.. - she kept her point interrupting - My Dad.. or else..
will create a controversy.
He scolded me last night when I had done with speaking to you.

Ah ha.. That's what am saying.. you stay with your family na.. be
happy.. why to harass yourself..?
Don't take tension.. leave it.. leave me.. chhod do na mujhe..
Waise bhi tumhe meri jarurat bhi kya hai..?
Kya tumhe farak padta hai.. baat karo mujhse ya na karo..
Do tell your Dad now.. that Sumiet will never call you.. will never
disturb you..
Ha dear.. I'll never ever call you.. never...!!

Now my cries had burst out..
With a big harsh change in my voice.. I was trying to restrain nerves
of my face which were trembling weirdly.. and my teeth.. which were
biting my underlips deeply..

Main tumhe achha ek rasta bata rahi hoon.. suno na meri baat.. humare liye..
Warna woh hum dono ke liye problem kar denge..

Kya karenge woh ?
Mere yaha aayenge ? Police main complaint karenge ? Mujhe dhamkayenge ? ha ?

Nahi re baba.. woh daatenge hum dono ko..

Toh kya ? Mere paas mooh nahi hai ?
Chalo.. I wanna see what he will do..
But leave it.. you leave me.. I understood all of you..
Tumhare Daddy mujhe tumse sadha phone pe baat nahi karne dete.. Shaadi
kya Ghanta karne denge..?
Jaanedo.. tum log raho achhese..
I'm sorry.. I won't trouble you all from now..

Aisa mat karo na.. bas kuchh din thero na.. woh jaane wale hai na..
then we can talk na..

Kaha ? Apne Baap se milne upar kya ?

Nahi.. Nashik.. - she uttered..

Toh kya ? Aayenge nahi kya waapas ?

Dekho.. abhi aur kya karu main..?
Sms se baat kyu nahi kar sakte ?

Sms through would you marry me..?

How's that possible..?

Exactly..!!

See.. there is no way out.. I'm helpless..

There are many ways.. but let be.. we won't contact.. okay..?

Hmmm.. as you wish.. now what I can say..?

Aai shapath.. tiche te "Wish" janu majhyasathi "विष" hote...!

Aur kaunsa rasta bhi toh nahi hai.. - she was repeating..

Raaste ka Kutta hoon kya main ?
- here I bursted outragingly.. -
Jab chaahe use kiya, jab chaahe fek diya...???

Now leaving no strength in me to say further any more.. flow of Tears
started gliding over my cheeks..
Weeping and trembling very worst.. I ended the debate with the red
button following the changing of SIM Card of my Docomo to Vodafone..
whose number she never had..

Laying helplessly.. traumatic shocks were quaking my Brain.
I had totally lost my vitality by her statement.
Perhaps.. our conversation of last night was slipped out of her remembrance..

Mujhe kuchh achha nahi lag raha.. - I told her..

Kyu ? Kya hua mere Shonuli ko ? - she pampered..

Study main dhyan hi nahi lag raha.. aaj maine kuchh bhi nahi kiya
dinbhar.. holiday hote hue bhi.. :-(

Awww.. mere Babbu ki padhai kyu nahi ho rahi ?
Why Bettu ?

Mujhe tumhari yaad aati hai.. :-(
My ears are not satisfying nowadays by your talk of few minutes.

Oh Sonu.. I'm there na with you..

No.. you are there and I'm here..
You are nowhere when I cut my Phone..

Hmmm.. Kya karu.. ghar main Daddy rehte hai na..
Dadaji ke gujar jaane ke wajah se ab koi na koi mehmaan aate jaate hai
gharpe.. :-(

Okay.. then do one thing.. recharge my number with sms pack of rs. 23.
We'll talk through messages.
Mujhe tumhari aadat chhoodani hai..

Why re ? Arey don't think like that re..
I'm calling you na.. as whenever I'm getting time.. without much
knowing of my Dad..

No no.. - I obsessed.. - We'll not hear each other's voice.
You may never know.. but it kills me when I don't hear you.
So better let's discontinue.
I die each and every moment without you.
I'm strongly feeling to see you.
You also forgot your word that you were going to come to me for few
days after your exams.. remember ?

Ha.. yes.. Kaha to tha.. par kya karu..?
You know na.. what's going at my home..?
In add.. you are very far away re.. at Ratnagiri..
How come..

So why don't you approach to some other boy who stays next to you and
love him ? - I interrupted..
Leave me na.. stay away.. stay blessed..

Chup re..
Aise nahi sochte..
Don't bother.. I'll buy Reliance SIM card very soon.. so we can talk
unlimited by the rechare of rs. 195. :-)
Chalo woh sab jaane do.. you say me how's your back ache ?

And she succeeded to change the topic untill unless we kept phone after an hour.

Never had I imagined how it takes no time to change a Girl's Mind..
Ahh.. and her today's words were telling me firmly how she respects her Dad more than me..
How her ears listen to her Dad more than me..
How less my value is in her perspective than of her Dad..
How her fear towards him was quite strong enough to wipe her love and care towards me..
How all the Girls in this World are exactly similar to each ohter..
Nobody is different.. none knows the true way of Love..
Kya bataau use.. bas ek baar keh deti toh dekhti.. how I would had I spoke to her Daddy.. and how had I seized her from her own World...!!
Oh honey bunny.. I shall fight with the whole world.. but only if You are with me...!! ;-(
Hmmm.. But alas...

Laying like a Dead.. I was unable to stop recalling all those words of my Friends.. and as well as of all those unfortunate Boys who were betrayed by their Loves..

Ahh ha.. She is an Unique..
She may not be Beautiful as other Girls.. but she has the most love and care than Anyone..!
She may not be intelligent as others.. but she is quite Picky enough to feel my Feelings..!
She may or not be my First Love.. but surely.. she is my Last...!!
She is the only one in this World.. in whom I had found my own World...!! - My answers used to..

And such used to be their comments.. - Sod re.. Amhala nako Sangu..
Sarv Muli ek saarkhe astaat re..
Bhitre.. Halkat.. Selfish.. Haawrat.. dhokebaaj..!
Aplya Family la kevha dukhwat naahit..
Mulanna badnaam karun swatah maatra Naav kamavtaat..!
Bagh.. ajun khup divas aahet.. tujha break up honaarach..! - they often added..
Kaaran tujhya sarkhya kharya prem karnaryala kadhi khare prem milat naahit.. kaaran tya todichi Mulgich kuthech naste..

Hehehehe... let be.. you would never know.. how she is.. and I am lucky to have her.. - I used to reply.. but now.. I had got to know a big Lesson..
She loves her family indeed more than me..
And I realized its worthness when I saw some of her uploaded Photos in her Facebook Profile for her Dad on his Birthday..

The above Photos really peirced my Heart deeply.. realizing her love for him..
And I was ashame of myself.. interferring in their Lives.. 

Listening my Breathe.. I was mumbling..
Oh  mera shona.. mera pyaar.. mujhe chhod ke chali gayi.. mujhe anaath karke chali gayi..
Uske liye to poori Duniya hai.. lekin mere liye toh sirf woh thi..
Kya nahi sapne dekhe the Humne..?
Humara naya Ghar.. humaari Ek sundar pyaari si Bacchi.. humara pyar.. humaari ek alag Duniya..
Aur kitna kuchh aise baate thi jo mujhe tumhe bataane thi tumhaare Exam ke Baad..
Meri chhupi sacchaai.. kuchh unbataayi baaate..
Lekin tumhe woh sunna ho toh na...!!
Kuchh mujhe pyaar se ziddi banke.. poochhti toh na..!!
Bus chali gayi..?
Na kuchh sunaa na kuchh kahaa...?

Suffering those pains.. I switched on my mobile.. replaced Vodafone with Docomo back again.. just to see her response..
But I was more sunken when she stopped trying to call me only after 11 attempts.. (as I was notified by missed call alert Server).. and only on 8149.. although she would had be able to speak with me on 9028.. as it was not off yet..
But she didn't had that wit..
This remembers me when I caught her in Hospital on their Landline.. as her mobiles were out of Range there..
I had the mind to reach to her bypassing any kind of hurdles within my Way..
And I had did my best several times..
I was mad for her.. Crazy like the Craze crossing all limits..

I waited damn for 10 mins.. but only for vain..!!
She discontinued calling me.. she was fine enough to not have any swings in her Mental Status..

Shayad woh bhool gayi hogi us Pyaar ko.. jo ek zamaane main woh mujhse karti thi..
Mere liye aahein bharti thi..roti thi.. chillati thi.. Suicide karne ki Taare banne ki baate karti thi..
Ek din mujh se baat nahi ho paayi toh Baccho ki tarah aansoo nikalti thi..
Mere phones off karne ke baad mere liye 140+ missed call alerts chhod ke jaati thi..
Woh meri Jaan kuchh alag hi thi Yaaro.. jiski Jaan sirf meri Jaan main rehti thi..!!
Uska woh pyaar aaj se kai gunaah jyada tha..
Kehti thi - Nai Shona.. mujhe koi nahi chahiye.. tumhaare ilawa..
Bhaad main gayi meri Padhaai.. mere Parents.. khana peena sab kuchh..!
Please na meri Jaan.. mat chhod ke jaao na mujhe..
Tumhari yeh Bacchi nahi reh paayegi is berehem Duniya main.. mere Papa..
My World goes empty without you.. re my Hubby..
Your voice is my Drug.. I can't survive a single day without it..
Sona.. mere bhaai.. your Didi wants to play with you.. wanna do many mischieves with you..
Bettu.. your Mumma is incomplete without her Baby..
Na Baccha.. mat jaa mujh se door.. mar jaayegi teri maa..
Ahh.. Come Sonu.. please come back.. ;-(

Woh din bhi kya khushnaseeb the..
Sach the ya jhooth.. lekin meri Duniya sajate the..
Lekin ab bas.. sirf woh yaade.. jo aasuo se bhi nahi behte.. ;-(

It is a worth saying.. - "Time waits for nobody..!!"
Deciding to close my 8149.. number permanently.. I turned it off and replaced it with Vodafone..
Such the dreadness of that moment was.. as if my Heart.. along with its Pulses and nerves.. was weeping tears of Blood..!!

Don't know when my eyes were closed.. perhaps it must be due to my weakness which persisted from last night cause of over increase of Bile Acid.
I had vomits and dysentry several times like as one vomit and loose motion per hour..!!

Now not long as my Eyes were lost in Dreams.. (Daymares.. or whatever..) I found my cell ringing..
With my sleepy eyes.. I unknowingly answered it as I used to do of my Love everyday and Night.. mistaking as it was of herself..
But hosh thikaane aa gaye jab meri Mom ki awaj suni..

Hello.. how are you..?
What were you doing..?
Got your money from her Bank..?
And never forget to preserve that receipt of deposit.. as now nobody is deserving to keep trust on them..
And how's your study..?
Devaache Naamsmaran kartos ki naahi ? Ha ?

Now obviously what answers would anybody had given in this circumstance of her simultaneous queries.. rather than - Hmmm.. Fine.. Okay & ha...??

Just in next few moments after keeping phone.. I was lost back again somewhere in my Past.. which was the origin of this Story..

The horrible look of my Face.. the deadly silence of my laid body.. the tremenduous flow of my tears.. flashed me away back on the day of "2nd April.. 2012.." the beginning of THE STORY OF NINE MONTHS...!!!

(will be continued..)

Intimacy of Girls

Intimacy of Girls nowadays is in fact the main Cause of crimes like Rape..

Today.. Girls are certainly not behind the Boys any manner..
They are overwhelmed with their own physical grace..
They put their efforts in best way to seduce Boys by this na that way.
There is always a comparison between Girls by who has the more number of Crushes behind them.. bargaining for Love.
This satisfies the Heart of Girls thinking as they are the only Angels in this World..!
They themselves want Boys to observe there Bodily Beauty...

Absolutely this leads to a big change of a Girl's image in the vision of a Man.
And for addition.. Modern Cinemas are doing their best to develop this intimacy.
Item Girls like Munni, Sheila.. etc. etc.. Item Dance in songs such as "Aa re Pritam Pyare.." "Chikni Chameli.."  force males to look at their (Girls') body in Lusty manner.. resulting to a slight delight in the  feelings of Girls..

All in short.. After seeing a "Sexy" Girl.. there is nothing of astonishment if "Sex" arouses in any Guy's body and Mind.. just exactly as water drips from the mouth of a Hungry Person after seeing a Hamburger...!!

REMEMBER.. Ek haat se Taali na kabhi baji thi.. aur naahi bajegi..
Kehte hai ke Bhagwan bhi apne hosh kho bethe Kaamini ko dekh kar.. toh yaaro.. Aadmi bhi aakhir ek Aadmi hota hai...!!

But ha.. just for fulfilling own flow of Passion, allegedly forcing anybody against their will.. certainly never fits in Human behaviour.

And this is what should be controlled and stopped.. for the crisis of HUMANISM...

 

                                        Sumiet23 

Improving Memory - 10 Tips

1. Harnessing the power of your brain

They say that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but when it comes to the brain, scientists have discovered that this old adage simply isn’t true. The human brain has an astonishing ability to adapt and change—even into old age. This ability is known as neuroplasticity. With the right stimulation, your brain can form new neural pathways, alter existing connections, and adapt and react in ever-changing ways.
The brain’s incredible ability to reshape itself holds true when it comes to learning and memory. You can harness the natural power of neuroplasticity to increase your cognitive abilities, enhance your ability to learn new information, and improve your memory.

2. Exercise & sleep

Just as an athlete relies on sleep and a nutrition-packed diet to perform his or her best, your ability to remember increases when you nurture your brain with a good diet and other healthy habits.

When you exercise the body, you exercise the brain

Treating your body well can enhance your ability to process and recall information. Physical exercise increases oxygen to your brain and reduces the risk for disorders that lead to memory loss, such as diabetes and cardiovascular disease. Exercise may also enhance the effects of helpful brain chemicals and protect brain cells.

Improve your memory by sleeping on it

When you’re sleep deprived, your brain can’t operate at full capacity. Creativity, problem-solving abilities, and critical thinking skills are compromised. Whether you’re studying, working, or trying to juggle life’s many demands, sleep deprivation is a recipe for disaster.
But sleep is critical to learning and memory in an even more fundamental way. Research shows that sleep is necessary for memory consolidation, with the key memory-enhancing activity occurring during the deepest stages of sleep.

3. Friends & Fun

When you think of ways to improve memory, do you think of “serious” activities such as wrestling with the New York Times crossword puzzle or mastering chess strategy, or do more lighthearted pastimes—hanging out with friends or enjoying a funny movie—come to mind? If you’re like most of us, it’s probably the former. But countless studies show that a life that’s full of friends and fun comes with cognitive benefits.

4. Healthy Relationships

Humans are highly social animals. We’re not meant to survive, let alone thrive, in isolation. Relationships stimulate our brains—in fact, interacting with others may be the best kind of brain exercise.
Research shows that having meaningful relationships and a strong support system are vital not only to emotional health, but also to brain health. In one recent study from the Harvard School of Public Health, for example, researchers found that people with the most active social lives had the slowest rate of memory decline.
There are many ways to start taking advantage of the brain and memory-boosting benefits of socializing. Volunteer, join a club, make it a point to see friends more often, or reach out over the phone. And if a human isn’t handy, don’t overlook the value of a pet—especially the highly-social dog.

5. Laughter

You’ve heard that laughter is the best medicine, and that holds true for the brain as well as the body. Unlike emotional responses, which are limited to specific areas of the brain, laughter engages multiple regions across the whole brain.
Furthermore, listening to jokes and working out punch lines activates areas of the brain vital to learning and creativity. As psychologist Daniel Goleman notes in his book Emotional Intelligence, “laughter…seems to help people think more broadly and associate more freely.”
Looking for ways to bring more laughter in your life? Start with these basics:

• Laugh at yourself. Share your embarrassing moments. The best way to take ourselves less seriously is to talk about the times when we took ourselves too seriously.
• When you hear laughter, move toward it. Most of the time, people are very happy to share something funny because it gives them an opportunity to laugh again and feed off the humor you find in it. When you hear laughter, seek it out and ask, “What’s funny?”
• Spend time with fun, playful people. These are people who laugh easily–both at themselves and at life’s absurdities–and who routinely find the humor in everyday events. Their playful point of view and laughter are contagious.
• Surround yourself with reminders to lighten up. Keep a toy on your desk or in your car. Put up a funny poster in your office. Choose a computer screensaver that makes you laugh. Frame photos of you and your family or friends having fun.
• Pay attention to children and emulate them. They are the experts on playing, taking life lightly, and laughing.

6. Stress Check

Stress is one of the brain’s worst enemies. Over time, if left unchecked, chronic stress destroys brain cells and damages the hippocampus, the region of the brain involved in the formation of new memories and the retrieval of old ones.

The stress-busting, brain-boosting benefits of meditation

Get depression in check

In addition to stress, depression takes a heavy toll on the brain. In fact, some of the symptoms of depression include difficulty concentrating, making decisions, and remembering things. If you are mentally sluggish because of depression, seeking treatment will make a big difference in your cognitive abilities, including memory.

The scientific evidence for the mental health benefits of meditation continues to pile up. Studies show that meditation helps improve many different types of conditions, including depression, anxiety, chronic pain, diabetes, and high blood pressure. Meditation also can improve focus, concentration, creativity, and learning and reasoning skills.
Meditation works its “magic” by changing the actual brain. Brain images show that regular meditators have more activity in the left prefrontal cortex, an area of the brain associated with feelings of joy and equanimity. Meditation also increases the thickness of the cerebral cortex and encourages more connections between brain cells—all of which increases mental sharpness and memory ability.

7. Brain-boosting diet

Just as the body needs fuel, so does the brain. You probably already know that a diet based on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and “healthy” fats will provide lots of health benefits, but such a diet can also improve memory. But for brain health, it’s not just what you eat—it’s also what you don’t eat. The following nutritional tips will help boost your brainpower and reduce your risk of dementia:

• Get your omega-3s. More and more evidence indicates that omega-3 fatty acids are particularly beneficial for brain health. Fish is a particularly rich source of omega-3, especially cold water “fatty fish” such as salmon, tuna, halibut, trout, mackerel, sardines, and herring. In addition to boosting brainpower, eating fish may also lower your risk of developing Alzheimer’s disease. If you’re not a fan of fish, consider turning to fish oil supplements. Other non-fish sources of omega-3s include walnuts, ground flaxseed, flaxseed oil, pumpkin seeds, and soybeans.
• Limit calories and saturated fat. Research shows that diets high in saturated fat (from sources such as red meat, whole milk, butter, cheese, sour cream, and ice cream) increase your risk of dementia and impair concentration and memory. Eating too many calories in later life can also increase your risk of cognitive impairment. Talk to your doctor or dietician about developing a healthy eating plan.
• Eat more fruit and vegetables. Produce is packed with antioxidants, substances that protect your brain cells from damage. Colorful fruits and vegetables are particularly good antioxidant "superfood" sources. Try leafy green vegetables such as spinach, broccoli, romaine lettuce, Swiss chard, and arugula, and fruit such as apricots, mangoes, cantaloupe, and watermelon.
• Drink green tea. Green tea contains polyphenols, powerful antioxidants that protect against free radicals that can damage brain cells. Among many other benefits, regular consumption of green tea may enhance memory and mental alertness and slow brain aging.
• Drink wine (or grape juice) in moderation. Keeping your alcohol consumption in check is key, since alcohol kills brain cells. But in moderation (around 1 glass a day for women; 2 for men), alcohol may actually improve memory and cognition. Red wine appears to be the best option, as it is rich in resveratrol, a flavonoid that boosts blood flow in the brain and reduces the risk of Alzheimer’s disease. Other resveratrol-packed options include grape juice, cranberry juice, fresh grapes and berries, and peanuts.

For mental energy, choose complex carbohydrates.

Just as a racecar needs gas, your brain needs fuel to perform at its best. When you need to be at the top of your mental game, carbohydrates can keep you going. But the type of carbs you choose makes all the difference. Carbohydrates fuel your brain, but simple carbs (sugar, white bread, refined grains) give a quick boost followed by an equally rapid crash. For energy that lasts, choose complex carbohydrates such as whole-wheat bread, brown rice, oatmeal, high-fiber cereal, lentils, and whole beans.

8. Brain workout

 

By the time you’ve reached adulthood, your brain has developed millions of neural pathways that help you process information quickly, solve familiar problems, and execute familiar tasks with a minimum of mental effort. But if you always stick to these well-worn paths, you aren’t giving your brain the stimulation it needs to keep growing and developing. You have to shake things up from time to time!
Memory, like muscular strength, requires you to “use it or lose it.” The more you work out your brain, the better you’ll be able to process and remember information. The best brain exercising activities break your routine and challenge you to use and develop new brain pathways. The activity can be virtually anything, so long as it meets the following three criteria:

1. It’s new. No matter how intellectually demanding the activity, if it’s something you’re already good at, it’s not a good brain exercise. The activity needs to be something that’s unfamiliar and out of your comfort zone.
2. It’s challenging. Anything that takes some mental effort and expands your knowledge will work. Examples include learning a new language, instrument, or sport, or tackling a challenging crossword or Sudoku puzzle.
3. It’s fun. Physical and emotional enjoyment is important in the brain’s learning process. The more interested and engaged you are in the activity, the more likely you’ll be to continue doing it and the greater the benefits you’ll experience. The activity should be challenging, yes, it should also be something that is fun and enjoyable to you. Make an activity more pleasurable by appealing to your senses—playing music while you do it, or rewarding yourself afterwards with a favorite treat, for example.

9. Mnemonic devices to Memorize

 Mnemonics (the initial “m” is silent) are clues of any kind that help us remember something, usually by helping us associate the information we want to remember with a visual image, a sentence, or a word.

Mnemonic types	EXAMPLES
Visual image - Associate a visual image with a word or name to help you remember them better. Positive, pleasant images that are vivid, colorful, and three-dimensional will be easier to remember.	To remember the name Rosa Parks and what she’s known for, picture a woman sitting on a park bench surrounded by roses, waiting as her bus pulls up.
Acrostic (or sentence) - Make up a sentence in which the first letter of each word is part of or represents the initial of what you want to remember.	The sentence “Every good boy does fine” to memorize the lines of the treble clef, representing the notes E, G, B, D, and F.
Acronym - An acronym is a word that is made up by taking the first letters of all the key words or ideas you need to remember and creating a new word out of them.	The word “HOMES” to remember the names of the Great Lakes: Huron, Ontario, Michigan, Erie, and Superior.
Rhymes and alliteration - Rhymes, alliteration (a repeating sound or syllable), and even jokes are a memorable way to remember more mundane facts and figures.	The rhyme “Thirty days hath September, April, June, and November” to remember the months of the year with only 30 days in them.
Chunking - Chunking breaks a long list of numbers or other types of information into smaller, more manageable chunks.	Remembering a 10-digit phone number by breaking it down into three sets of numbers: 555-867-5309 (as opposed to5558675309).
Method of loci - Imagine placing the items you want to remember along a route you know well or in specific locations in a familiar room or building.	For a shopping list, imagine bananas in the entryway to your home, a puddle of milk in the middle of the sofa, eggs going up the stairs, and bread on your bed.

10. Enhancing Learning ability

• Pay attention. You can’t remember something if you never learned it, and you can’t learn something—that is, encode it into your brain—if you don’t pay enough attention to it. It takes about eight seconds of intense focus to process a piece of information into your memory. If you’re easily distracted, pick a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted.
• Involve as many senses as possible. Try to relate information to colors, textures, smells, and tastes. The physical act of rewriting information can help imprint it onto your brain. Even if you’re a visual learner, read out loud what you want to remember. If you can recite it rhythmically, even better.
• Relate information to what you already know. Connect new data to information you already remember, whether it’s new material that builds on previous knowledge, or something as simple as an address of someone who lives on a street where you already know someone.
• For more complex material, focus on understanding basic ideas rather than memorizing isolated details. Practice explaining the ideas to someone else in your own words.
• Rehearse information you’ve already learned. Review what you’ve learned the same day you learn it, and at intervals thereafter. This “spaced rehearsal” is more effective than cramming, especially for retaining what you’ve learned.